“They spoil every romance by trying to make it last forever.”
-Oscar Wilde
Overhearing many conversation about men by women usually sound like this; "what the am I doing wrong?, I try so hard!, He's so complicated..." and so on and so forth. So what's the problem, what do men want when it comes to women?
Point one is something I ended the lasts entry with, 'men are not mind readers.' We want open, honest communication. No BS, if something is bothering you, or you want something done more, or more often, etc- say it! Stop being a girl and be a woman! The problem is most girls in love or infatuated or whatever, are scared to speak up at times and say something! They feel like they'll "mess things up" or "he wont care or try." (actual talks with females I think, ha!) Calmly speak and you will be heard, spaz out, be rude, or cry too much and you'll be listened to and then ignored...
Secondly, a man, and I mean a man, not a boy, wants an independent, confident woman, period. Its good to be wanted and and cared for by you women but at the end of the day men want you to have your own existence, and lives... Tell him you're busy one day, and that you have plans with the girls to go out-- Watch how much he'll miss you and how much you'll have to talk about that night. (Even if you rather be with him instead of your friends at the time... Its healthy every once in a while. Get space!) This also includes emotional stability, its okay to be weak and have him hold you while you cry, but he wants a woman when it all said and done, not a little sister, show him you can be tough too!
Nextly, (I doubt nextly is a word ha), but any who on a closing note men want a women that knows how to treat a man! This may vary from male to male but overall its fairly simple, men need ego boosters! Women at time like to downgrade an generalize men as all being the same, good for nothing, just like the next guy type. Aside from filling his tummy and however your agreement is for satisfaction a little verbal praise doesn't hurt, tell him how great of a guy he is and how much you care every so often especially when they do something right as opposed to reminding him of the wrongs he's committed of any.
Like all topics, there a bunch of special circumstances, situations and 'what if this is the case' kind of things but I'm not your marriage counselor... yet-
Open your mouth and ask him, try and actually be his friend...
TRUST ME, sort of...
This is really interesting i like the way u think.
ReplyDeleteYes I agree... a lot of people overlook things u mentioned
ReplyDeleteI have a question though. Why are guys sometimes on their period more than girls? LOL
ReplyDeleteAh, that is quite funny... With that question, I can just about assume that guys you have dealt with are either young and immature or both! Most young men, and I strongly suggest the emphasis on the MEN part, are not like this at all. Granted some may "have there period" more than others, this is for one of there reasons. One is what I just mentioned; they're a child in many ways and someone in there life puts up with their crap, so they expect you to. For example a mom, a past girlfriend, and or friend, in general put up with it so they assume you will too. Secondly, they're just having a bad day/week and you just have crappy luck because you're always caught in the the middle of it haha. Finally yet importantly, they may be stuck in their stubborn ways and you don't like that. This automatically puts that person in the bad 'period' mood you suggest. Men usually are clear cut and simple with things, like how they like there food, or alone time when they watch the game or how they would like you to present yourself at certain venues, being new to his style might be the problem and cause a rift. Either learn more about him to better understand and adjust yourself for him, or speak to him at a time away from the argument or issue asking the reason for his outbreaks . There's usually a reason behind it, and maybe he's unconscious to it and never really notices that he acts that way because it's just become second nature to him. Other than that I cannot really think of another reason, maybe he ran out of pads?
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Thank You!
ReplyDeletehow do u let someone know that you are feeling them without scaring them away... how do u know if its too soon to say something?
ReplyDeleteComment #5: Its never too soon! Life is really short and ANYTHING is possible if properly done! The problem is, when someone likes or cares about someone else they usually fear telling that person because they believe they are now vulnerable. Although that may be the case at times if you do it properly, things should run smoothly.
ReplyDeleteIf its been a week with someone and the time was well spent, don't go running to them screaming I LOVE YOU! That might scare the ba-jeeez-ers out of them. I'm not saying that its not possible but don't say that right off that bat. A conversation about feelings usually is a good and innocent entry point; for example; "hey, I have a question... how do you feel about me?" Very simple very innocent, then you say something like; "I think you're a very (________) person and someone I'd enjoy getting to know more about," OR simply "I like you, nothing crazy or anything, just thought you should know"
You can't knock it until you've tried it- Little notes are also the cutest thing ever , just to throw another tip out there ;) But keep them short and sweet... I like you :).... OR... psst, you're cute, I like ya... Who knows maybe it will work!
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where have uou been lately... im in dire need of advice lol
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