You think they're cheating, now what?

"Experience is the name every one gives to their mistakes."

-Oscar Wilde

So you think he or she is cheating? Yes, I said HE or SHE, most if not all of know the bad wrap guys take for being cheaters but ALL of us know that at any given time, women can be, if not are worse!

Moving on, you think they're cheating? What do you do? Think, and find out more before opening your mouth. The second you start accusing he or she of cheating without proof, you open a whole can of worms you're not going to want. For example say they're cheating, whether they are or not, they'll become super defensive and secretive, which will further piss you off. Also, if you say they're cheating with no proof, they'll start questioning you, the relationship and start thinking how faithful are you since you have the 'nerve to accuse them' without reason. Last but not least on this part; if you say they're cheating when they are not, you might actually push them to cheat... Because if you constantly accuse them, deep down they'll develop the idea that 'eff it, they think I'm cheating anyway, I might as well..." Okay, so maybe this isn't everyone but it's human nature; push someone hard enough in one direction, they're bound to go that way!

The next step is; you think he or she is cheating, you have proof; its up to you and you're character style; confront them, leave them, contemplate murder, whatever but no matter how you deal with it, NEVER physically fight for anyone, it doesn't solve anything and NEVER stay with them and cheat as well, that whole 'if they can do it, so can I' mentality rarely ever yields positive results. Also if you're evidence is purely hear say, be careful that has be devastating to GOOD potentially life long love-

Finally yet importantly, you think they are but have no proof, the only mature way of doing things is open honest communication. Like I have mentioned in previous posts talking usually helps a bunch! Have a conversation with the other and let them know how you feel without pointing a finger and accusing and while remaining calm. Tell them; look, I've been feeling like this... I don't feel the same affection you used to give me, I feel like things have been changing, or I feel like I'm not the only one in your life, hypothetically speaking. See how that goes maybe they will be the bigger person and admit their infidelity or maybe they aren't cheating and say; damn I never noticed, lets fix this. Who knows maybe they are just highly distracted by other issues i.e. school, family, personal things, bottom line; remaining calm and maintaining open communication is the best route.

Disclaimer: You might just be with a cheating whore or a dirty dog so communication might do you no good!

And remember if they have been unfaithful, people can change, no on is perfect, so if deep down you love this person, you may want to give it another try, love has a funny way of teaching lessons. As always though, that choice to try is up to you...

TRUST ME, sort of.